Every September Begins with Hope

Every September, students return to school.

They arrive with backpacks slung over their shoulders, some fresh supplies, and often a mixture of excitement, curiosity, and nervous energy. They reconnect with friends they haven’t seen all summer. They meet new teachers. They wonder what the year ahead might hold.

Of course, there are practical reasons why students return. School is mandatory. Their friends are there. There are new things to learn and new experiences to be had.

All of that is true.

But it runs deeper than that. Every school year begins with a quiet act of hope.

The doors open. Hallways fill. Shoes squeak across polished floors. Someone is finishing breakfast in the parking lot. Another student is already laughing with a friend before the bell rings. A teacher stands at the classroom door, greeting students one by one, communicating something far more important than the day’s lesson:

“I see you. You belong here.”

At its best, that simple message is one of the most powerful forces in public education.

And yet, across British Columbia, throughout Canada, and around the world, we are seeing growing concerns about student absenteeism. More students are missing school than in previous years, and educators, families, and researchers are paying close attention. While attendance data tells part of the story, it does not tell us everything.

Because attendance is rarely just about attendance.

Sometimes an empty desk represents illness — sometimes anxiety — sometimes a student who feels overwhelmed and has fallen behind — sometimes it is a young person carrying challenges that remain unseen by those around them.

The reality is that absenteeism is often complex, layered, and deeply connected to issues of well-being, engagement, and belonging.

That is why I believe we need to ask a different question.

Not simply: “How do we get students to come to school?”

But rather: “What makes school a place they want to return to?”

The answer begins with belonging.

Belonging is not a slogan displayed on a wall or a statement inside a strategic plan. It is built through hundreds of small moments every day:

  • It is the teacher who notices when a student seems quieter than usual.
  • The educational assistant who helps a child regain a sense of calm before frustration turns into crisis.
  • The principal who knows students by name.
  • The classmate who saves a seat at lunch.
  • The counsellor, Elder, or other adult who reminds a young person that who they are matters.

These moments may seem small in isolation, but collectively they create something powerful. They create connection.

I have written before that before we teach content, we teach belonging.

The research continues to affirm what educators have long understood through experience. Students who feel connected to their schools are more engaged in learning, more resilient when facing challenges, and more likely to thrive academically, socially, and emotionally.

There is an important leadership lesson in this as well.

When school systems face increasing pressures, from staffing shortages and growing student needs to rapidly changing expectations, it is easy to focus primarily on technical solutions — better tracking systems; improved intervention protocols; stronger monitoring of attendance patterns.

These things matter. But they are not enough on their own.

Students return to places where they feel known. That truth sits at the heart of public education’s purpose.

Schools do not exist simply to deliver curriculum. They exist to help young people discover who they are and who they might become. They create spaces where students grow intellectually, socially, emotionally, and ethically.

When students are frequently absent, that work becomes more challenging. But it also becomes more important.

Chronic absenteeism is not simply a data problem to solve. It is a signal inviting us to pay closer attention.

  • Who is struggling?
  • Who is quietly drifting to the margins?
  • Who feels disconnected?
  • And what might we do differently to help them reconnect?

Of course, schools cannot solve every challenge confronting young people and families today. The pressures facing communities are real, and many extend far beyond the schoolhouse doors.

But schools can still serve as one of the most powerful protective forces in a young person’s life. When life feels uncertain, school can provide stability. When the world feels disconnected, school can create community. When young people begin to doubt themselves, school can remind them that they matter.

So as another school year begins, perhaps the most important question is not: “Who is here today?”

Perhaps the better question is: “What happened here recently that would make a student want to return tomorrow?”

  • Did they feel successful?
  • Did they feel seen?
  • Did they laugh?
  • Did someone make room for their voice?

Those are not soft questions — they are foundational ones.

Because every classroom begins long before the bell rings. It begins with connection. It begins with relationships. It begins with the daily commitment to create schools where students do not simply attend but truly belong.

And when students belong, they come back.

Executive Functions are our ‘Air Traffic Control’ System

Searching for the Invisible Skills of Executive Functioning

One of the most effective determinants of student success is building the invisible skills called Executive Functions — the foundations to effective learning. In fact, studies show a stronger correlation between executive functions and student success, than with IQ and student success.

When I visit schools, I’m reminded that student success is actually based on what we can’t see — things like:

  • keeping the teacher’s instruction in their mind;
  • staying focused while resisting distractions; or
  • shifting problem-solving strategies when their first attempt doesn’t work.

These are our brain’s executive functions — our ‘air traffic control’ system for successful learning.

Executive functions: a set of higher-order cognitive processes necessary for managing oneself, focusing attention, planning, and achieving goals. The three core pillars are:

  • working memory (holding and using information);
  • cognitive flexibility (trying a new approach); and
  • inhibitory control (pausing before acting).

The great news is that these abilities can get better over time — sometimes substantially — from early childhood through adolescence. And, as with most things in education, consistent practice can lead to significant gains.

When students’ executive functions get stronger, the results are noticeable in several ways. Things like:

  • clearer writing;
  • better problem‑solving; and
  • smoother collaboration with others.

Not surprisingly, when stress or poor sleep become factors, we see the opposite happen — less focused writing, weaker problem-solving skills and less cooperation with others. Behavioural outbursts out in school, MAY be the result of a child’s Executive Functioning either not being developed or being temporary depressed because of stress or lack of sleep.

This is another great reminder that personal well-being and learning are so intimately connected. Well-being supports like our district’s Mental Wellness Snapshots help families with practical strategies for routines, sleep, and stress management — the foundations for strong executive functions.

Games like Jenga can Build Executive Functions

Here are a few more ways that families can help promote these critical skills:

  • Invite your child to lead the planning for a family activity: “What is our 3-step plan for today’s adventure?”
  • Do an activity that requires cooperation, planning and problem solving — like cooking or baking.
  • Praise the process behind the problem solving: “Congratulations, you tried Plan B when Plan A didn’t work!”
  • Play strategy-based games that build impulse control, thinking ahead and adapting strategies: Uno, Jenga, Chess, or Memory are good ones.
  • Protect sleep time like their success depends on it — because it does!

So, as parents or caregivers when we are looking to build our children’s success at school, we don’t always need to know how to help them with their Calculus homework to assist them in becoming more successful.

What we all can do is find ways of practicing those critical brain skills that open the doors to successful learning.

And I thought Uno was just a game that I never won!

Organization Success Means Leading with Emotional Intelligence

I’ve blogged about the importance of nostalgia before (The Neuroscience of Nostalgia: Why Familiar Stories Feel So Good) — how it can have a calming influence on our brain and help with self-regulation.

But can it also spur innovation?

We have all likely walked into a space and been hit with a smell that instantly transported us back to our childhood. Maybe it was fresh-cut grass, or the scent of crayons, or perhaps the smell of freshly baked cookies from grandma’s house.

Nostalgia is powerful because it connects us to something deeply human — our emotions.

And emotions are the secret ingredient for both successful leadership and innovation.

Why Emotions Matter

We live in a world obsessed with efficiency, data, and speed. But leadership isn’t just about metrics and efficiency — it’s about meaning — a deeper connection to what’s around you and its influence on you.

Emotional Intelligence (EI) is what allows us to create meaning. EI is the ability to understand and manage our own emotions while recognizing and influencing the emotions of others.

Think about the last time you felt truly heard by a leader. Chances are it wasn’t because they had the best spreadsheet or meeting agenda. It was because they connected with you on a human level.

That’s EI.

The Neuroscience Behind Nostalgia

Neuroscience tells us that revisiting positive memories activates reward pathways in our brain. It makes us feel safe, valued, and open to new ideas. In other words, nostalgia can be a powerful launchpad for innovation. When leaders tap into that emotional connection — through stories or shared experiences — they create trust. And trust is the necessary foundation for risk-taking and creativity.

How Leaders Can Harness EI

Sharing your own Journey Builds Connections

So, how do you lead with emotional intelligence in a way that is genuine and transparent?

  1. Tell Stories That Matter – Share moments that shaped you. Vulnerability builds connection. It’s OK to tell the stories of your mistakes — that your errors can lead to future success.
  2. Model Reflection – Share your learning journey with the people in your care. By modelling your journey of ‘ups and downs’ you model the uneven growth path that we all travel.

As a leader, the most important thing in your toolbox is understanding that your purpose is to support the people in your organization — it’s not decision making or getting to a set endpoint.

By leading with Emotional Intelligence, you provide the necessary trust to build relationships. Relationships build shared opportunities. Opportunities build growth. Organizational success is not achieved by having more rules and regulations. Success depends in large part on the people whom you lead — and to do that means connecting with them beyond the statistics.

When people feel emotionally safe, they take risks. They speak up. They challenge the status quo. That’s where innovation lives — not in fear of making a mistake, but in trust.

Emotional intelligence isn’t something soft that we should ignore — it’s critical and it’s strategic.

It makes THE difference in organizational success!